Published June 20, 2025
Real Advice for New Moms From Moms Who Get It
The early days of motherhood can feel like a tidal wave. You’re adjusting to life with a baby, healing from birth, navigating sleep deprivation and suddenly responsible for this tiny person’s every need — all while wondering if you’re doing it right.
We want you to know that you’re not alone.
Every new mom has faced the same fears, questions and hard days. While no two parenting experiences are the same, there’s real comfort in hearing from those who’ve been there. This is a guide filled with real advice for new moms — from Bobbie employees (parents themselves!) who know what it’s like to love their baby and still feel overwhelmed.
Let’s talk honestly about what it’s like and share the support and encouragement you deserve.
What’s the Best Advice for a New Mom?
Here’s the first truth of parenting: there’s no one “right” way to do it. This might sound frustrating when you’re desperate for answers, but it’s actually a gift. Because your baby, your body and your life are unique.
However, we want to share three mindset shifts with you. They can ground and guide you throughout the hardest moments.
Trust Your Instincts
You’ll be bombarded with opinions — from visitors, blogs and strangers in the grocery store. But nobody knows your baby like you do. Listen to your gut. Whether you’re choosing between breastfeeding and formula or deciding if the cry is related to hunger or being overtired, trust that you know more than you think.
Let Go of “Perfect”
Perfection is a myth. You don’t need a spotless house, a rigid schedule or a Pinterest-worthy nursery to be a great parent. What matters most is connection. And yes, it’s okay if dinner is cereal. Again.
Your Mental Health Matters
This is huge. The emotional rollercoaster is real, and postpartum depression or anxiety is common. Ask for help — from your partner, friends, doctor or therapist. You are not weak. You are a mother, and you matter, too.
“Take time for yourself; and don't feel guilty about it!” – Christine A., Purchasing Manager
10 Pieces of Advice Every First-time Mom Should Hear
This is the stuff they don’t always put in baby books, the messy, heartfelt, surprisingly funny truths that make a difference.
1. Accept Help Early and Often
Say yes when people offer to bring meals, fold laundry or hold the baby so you can shower. Let them. You don’t have to do it all.
“The phrase, ‘Sleep when the baby sleeps,’ is a lie. Shower when the baby sleeps. You’ll feel human again.” – Alyssa J., Medical Sales Manager
2. Don’t Strive for Perfection, Aim for Connection
Your child doesn’t need perfect. What they need is for you to be present, attuned and loving. Routines can help, but bonding beats strict rules.
“In the toughest moments with your baby, remember that they are not giving you a hard time, they are having a hard time.” – Remi L., Director of Comms
3. Your Feeding Journey Is Yours
Whether you’re breastfeeding, combo feeding or using formula, the goal is nourishment, so try not to worry about being judged. Do what works for you and your baby.
“Never start a feeding or pumping session without a full Stanley and a full battery or cell phone charger nearby.” – Kim C., Chief Brand Officer
4. Sleep Deprivation Is Real
You may feel like you’re losing your mind some days. That’s normal. Sleep when and how you can. Even short naps help.
“Rest when they are sleeping, you will need it!” – Shirley G., Sales Ops Assistant
5. Avoid Comparisons. Your Baby, Your Pace
Milestones, Instagram moments, other babies — they don’t define your experience. Every child has their own timeline.
6. Take Care of Yourself
Self-care isn’t selfish. Five minutes of sunlight, a stretch, a glass of water or deep breaths at bedtime can help you recalibrate.
“Keep on top of the stool softeners after birth!!” – Mallory W., Education Lead
7. You Will Make Mistakes — and That’s Okay
We all mess up. Spilled milk, missed naps, wrong-sized diapers. Offer yourself grace. This is how we learn.
8. Find Your People — or Just One Person
Community matters. Whether it’s a parenting group, a lactation consultant or a neighbor, connection eases the load.
9. Communicate With Your Partner
Talk about expectations, emotional support and how to divide care. Stay on the same team. This is new for both of you.
10. This Is a Season, it Gets Easier
The first months can feel endless. But it will pass. You’ll sleep again. Your baby will smile, laugh and show you how much you mean to them.
“Every phase ends. Sleepless nights, cluster feeding, crying for no reason — all of it. It passes — and then one day, you will weirdly miss all of those phases!” – Jana C., Controller
“Every stage is temporary. You'll get through the dark days and enjoy the bright ones!” – Nina U., Brand Management Lead
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The 5-5-5 Rule for New Moms Explained
Postpartum recovery takes care, patience and permission to rest, not just time. Giving birth is one of the most demanding experiences a mother can go through, both physically and emotionally. The 5-5-5 rule offers a gentle structure to ease into healing, protect your energy and set the tone for the weeks ahead.
First 5 Days in Bed
Prioritize rest, recovery and bonding with your baby. Let others handle the practical stuff — diapers, food and even managing visitors. This is your chance to catch your breath and begin adjusting to life with your new baby in the quietest way possible.
Next 5 Days on the Bed
Stay mostly horizontal, but allow some slow movement. Walk to the bathroom, stretch your legs and sit up to eat. Use this window to listen to your body and let it guide you. Healing progresses in layers, and there’s no need to rush it.
Final 5 Days Near the Bed
Begin to rejoin parts of your routine. That might mean sitting at the kitchen table for meals, taking a brief walk with a friend or gently tidying up something simple. Choose what feels nourishing, not what looks productive. The goal is to re-enter life slowly, with as much comfort as possible.
This gentle rhythm creates space for your body to repair, for your hormones to settle and for your mind to begin processing everything that just happened. It also gives those around you a clear way to offer support without waiting to be asked.
Give yourself permission to move through postpartum at your own pace. There’s nothing to prove — only a path to protect your health, your energy and your sense of self.
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Advice for new parents: Feeding without pressure
Feeding your new baby can stir up more questions and concerns than you ever imagined. Is breastfeeding going well? Is your baby getting enough milk? Should you try a different formula? The truth is, there’s no universal method in parenting — only what works best for you, your baby and your family.
Some parents experience latch challenges or low milk supply. Others may feel overwhelmed by the demands of nursing and want to share responsibilities with a partner. Whether you start with breastfeeding, move to combo feeding or begin with formula feeding right away, it’s all valid. Choosing what works for your baby is what matters most.
In some cases, your baby might benefit from a gentle infant formula, especially if they’re sensitive to certain ingredients. Others might do better with a whole milk infant formula, which can support digestion and growth during key stages. Some parents explore organic formula options for peace of mind about ingredients, while others browse any formula that suits their baby’s needs and family’s values.
Always feel empowered to talk with your doctors, lactation consultant or trusted friends if things feel overwhelming. Nourishing your child takes many forms, and none of them require perfection.
And remember, feeding is a learning curve. What matters is that your baby is cared for, fed and loved, and that you’re making the choices that feel right for you. That’s the heart of parenthood.
Real Talk: The Hard Days Are Real, but so Are the Joys
Some days, you’ll cry in the shower. Some nights, you’ll beg the universe for sleep. But then, your baby will coo or hold your finger, or smile at you — and your whole mind will shift.
“The early days can feel impossible. Know that your baby will grow and change and will be giving you affection and feedback soon... it will all be so worth it!” – Sally S., Customer Experience Manager
“The best advice I got was: ‘Buckle up, it gets worse before it gets better.’ They were right!” – Johanna S., Program Manager, Talent
Support for Every Feeding Journey
You’re doing better than you think. You are not alone, and you are exactly what your baby needs — even on the days it doesn’t feel that way.
Motherhood is full of contradictions. It’s the hardest and most beautiful thing you’ll ever do. The best thing you can do is keep showing up with grace, ask for help and build your circle of support.
Bobbie was founded by moms who get it. If formula feeding is part of your story, we’re here to help you feel confident, supported and informed. Our gentle, organic formulas are designed to support your baby’s growth — and your peace of mind.
You got this, mama. One step, one messy day, one feeding, one nap at a time.
The content on this site is for informational purposes only and not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Discuss any health or feeding concerns with your infant’s pediatrician. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay it based on the content on this page.
