I was hopeful my wife would have a positive breastfeeding experience. She was diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes when she was five so she's dealt with medical issues all her life. The pregnancy process for T1Ds is rigorous and she needed to acutely manage her health.
When it came to breastfeeding, her goal was to get to six months if possible. For me, because pregnancy had been so hard for her, I really hoped this one thing went well because I knew she would be disappointed if it didn’t.
Our daughter was born and it was going okay in the hospital. Once we got home, our daughter's capability started to regress a little bit. It was very emotionally exhausting and challenging, and there were a lot of tears.
That was the beginning of about two to three weeks of touch-and-go feeding, where sometimes she would latch and sometimes she wouldn’t. It was rough and so we were using a lot of formula to supplement during those few weeks.
Through a lactation consultant, we figured out that our daughter needed to have her tongue clipped. It helped tremendously. Feeding went from something that my wife dreaded, to something she looked forward to, that was very intimate, private, and loving. It was wonderful to see that transition take place. It evolved in a really positive way, she breastfed until just after one year.
I consider myself to be a very engaged father so to the extent that it made sense for me to participate in feeding, I did. Those moments were a time to reflect and be really thankful for the wonderful gift of my child and my wife.